Love

Be Careful What You Wish For

A long time ago, in a more innocent time (the late 90’s) I was struggling to figure out what to do with my life. I’d earned a degree that had given me a broad spectrum of creative technological skills, but there was nothing directly transferable into a “career”. Worse, I was an creative (sorry, Mom). …

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Practice

Three Daily Planning Layouts to Try in 2018

I know better than to try to set resolutions this time of year. Also, after 2017, there’s a bit of a grim “batten down the hatches” attitude. In all honesty, there’s a part of me that looks at 2018 with a level of gibbering fear that has nothing to do with politics or climate. I’ve …

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Life

Your Schedule is Not Your Life

We are not good at planning. I mean any kind of planning. Ask for any soldier’s list of favorite quotes about war, and odds are one of the top three is some variation of the phrase “No battle plan ever survives contact with the enemy.” (If you want to look brainy, when someone tries to …

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Practice

Plans, Dreams, Hopes, and Schemes

I remember when I was talking with my lawyer (who had also been my best friend all through high school) about starting a business. He patiently explained to my non-business brain about the differences between Limited Liability Companies and Sole Proprietorships and the like, and listened patiently as I explained what I was hoping to …

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Defining Moment

Defining Moment Part 6: how to assess risk productively

The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly There’s a great podcast out from the Guardian’s Science Weekly where psychologist Gerd Gigerenzer talks about risk. He makes the point over and over again that first, people spend a lot of time worrying about the wrong risks, and second, even the ones we should worry about are …

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Practice

What if you did it right, but actually planned it wrong?

“No kidding, there I was…” I was lucky enough to spend the weekend at a retreat in Indeana with a few other performance art enthusiasts, including a very dear friend of mine from New York. He was talking about a recent show he did: I really thought that was it – the best show I’d …

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Love

love can be dangerous if you’re not ready

Do What You Love, and… While it’s very exciting that the Defining Moment series has come about, I don’t want to give anyone the impression that it’s meant to change your life. It might – it has for some – but that’s not what it’s for. It’s for moments. Parts of a life, times that …

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