Personal Development with Gray Miller
“We need to talk…” …are the four least-favorite words you want to hear from someone you care about. Every relationship has them; subjects where you know you disagree, or where the topics touch on painful memories, or trigger deeply-held fears. They may be unresolved decisions; opinions about people or issues; They are the things that …
This is one of those trick titles – click bait, of a sort – that bloggers come up with so they can pull an “ah-ha!” later. The truth is, way back in high school, reading too much Richard Bach and Leo Buscaglia and Alan Watts and late-era Robert Heinlein, I came up with the idea …
We didn’t want to make it the way it was. We wanted to make it the way we remembered it. – creators of the Netflix series “Voltron” That quote has stuck with me ever since one of my best friends (and far superior a geek than I will ever be) related it to me. It …
A few days ago, a friend of mine posted a picture. You can see it up there. Along with it, she voiced some displeasure over the phenomenon of “manspreading”. This is the perception that men, especially in public spaces, tend to take up more space than is usually allotted to a given seat. I say …
It’s not a light read, but ”The Evolving Self: Psychology for the Third Millennium” by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi (say it with me: mih-HAY-lee chick-SENT-me-high) has a lot of pretty profound thoughts. This one might seem a little depressing, but bear with me: A rosy-colored picture of human nature cannot stand up to scrutiny for long. Those …
"Shifting from mindful to mindless work gives the brain time to process complex problems in a relaxed state and also restores the energy necessary for the next round of mindful work. … you need to challenge the worries that keep you reacting compulsively instead of engaging consciously… From “Managing Your Day-to-Day”, edited by Jocelyn Glei …
Here’s a quick example of how people who spend a good portion of their time working on things like communication styles, relationship dynamics, mindful meditation, and personal development have conversations: “I’m a little worried about money.” “Well, stop it.” “Oh, sure, no problem. Thanks SO much for that help – it’s all better now, haha!” …
Recently I was talking with a conservative acquaintance of mine, and noticed a bumper sticker in Greek on his car. It took me an embarrassingly long amount of time to place the phrase (especially as a big fan of the Hardcore History podcast, but eventually I worked it out: molon labe, or “Come and take …
“You’re writing about love!” he said. “I saw this video from the School of Life about ‘Why Polyamory Won’t Work for You’ ; that might be some good fodder for the blog.” I groaned. “Oh, yes, I saw that. It was horrible.” My friend is monogamous, I am polyamorous, and he and I have talked …
“As a recovering perfectionist and aspiring good-enoughist…” – Brené Brown I mentioned in my post about the FIP that one of my tragic flaws is that I fail to give myself credit for the things that I accomplish. It’s a lack of self-compassion for the reality that I am actually human, and if (like me) you …