Personal Development with Gray Miller
“We need to talk…” …are the four least-favorite words you want to hear from someone you care about. Every relationship has them; subjects where you know you disagree, or where the topics touch on painful memories, or trigger deeply-held fears. They may be unresolved decisions; opinions about people or issues; They are the things that …
This is one of those trick titles – click bait, of a sort – that bloggers come up with so they can pull an “ah-ha!” later. The truth is, way back in high school, reading too much Richard Bach and Leo Buscaglia and Alan Watts and late-era Robert Heinlein, I came up with the idea …
Those four words, I am convinced, are some of the most profound and useful things to understand. And it’s hard, because we all want to be the protagonist in our own narrative — and we are! You can’t help but be your own main character, because everything that happens is in the first person, and …
You know that “10,000 hour rule” that Malcolm Gladwell popularized based on Anders Ericsson’s research? Ericsson eloquently explained why Gladwell got it very wrong in a Salon article. I enjoyed that, because I get annoyed with Gladwell’s particular version of pop-psych (also, to be fair, I’m envious at his ability to write). But the really …
I’ve been diving back into the concept of antifragility in a big way. That’s the opposite of “fragile”, according to the work of Nassim Taleb, author of the book of the same name as well as the person who popularized the idea of “the Black Swan” – unforeseeable events that change everything. One of the …
Leave room – for no good reason. – from Scarcity: Why Having Too Little Can Mean So Much Finished the book! And I have to say that it is one of the most influential and thought-provoking books I’ve ever read. In fact, while I really enjoyed the audio book, I’m going to be going back …
A Guest Post from Amy A dear friend and avid reader commented last week on my Friendly Coercion post with some suggestions that were so good that I felt they merited their own post. Amy Law from Seattle has developed her own particular set of protocols for both hearing and expressing requests. Personally, I think …
The Good, the Bad, the Efficient Occupy Wall Street. The phenomenon raises a lot of eyebrows, shaking of heads, grimaces. Regardless of where you fall on the political spectrum, looking at it as noble or futile or both, it was, for a time, an undeniably potent force. One of the more powerful tools that it …
Hugs, Broccoli, & Yoga “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” – Virginia Satir, “The Mother of Family Therapy“ As promised, today’s Practice post is all about hugging. Hugging may not be your thing, but like broccoli and …