Nope, you don’t.
Any time you feel that things are stacked against you, any time you feel that things are unfair, any time that you wonder what you did to deserve this horrible fate…the answer is yep, they are. Totally unfair. Nothing you did rated this kind of retribution.
Unfortunately, that’s the point. It’s not, actually, retribution. It’s not even bad luck. In fact, it’s not even bad, except from the point of view of the person witnessing it or experiencing it.
Heck, you could be the heir to a powerful kingdom, handsome, educated, talented, with wonderful friends. Living the life of luxury. Sounds good, right?
“Why then ’tis none to you; for there is nothing either good or bad,
but thinking makes it so. To me it is a prison.”
–Hamlet, by William Shakespeare
If there’s one thing we seem to excel at, it’s convincing ourselves that things are not fair. And we’re right. They’re not supposed to be fair. To quote the Princess Bride, where is that written?
OK, OK, all you people who are heaving books at me, yes, it’s written in a lot of places. Do this, they tell you, and good things will happen. It is a Secret, or it’s Karmic, or it’s a Commandment which will secure for you vast treasures in Heaven.
Personally, I find it much easier to just think “Huh. This happened. I kind of feel like that sucks. What can I do about it?“
Mainly, that gives me the opportunity to see the next thing that happens that can be viewed as “good.” I didn’t do anything to “deserve” that, either, but maybe I’ve done some things that made it more likely that it would happen. Bit by bit, I can stack the deck towards awesomeness, as a dear friend of mine likes to say.
Life is not fair. Things happen. The only thing you can do is try to make things that you happen to feel are “good” happen, and then try to see what happens as being the only thing that could have.