Love

The Hell of Mindful Loving

Here’s a quick example of how people who spend a good portion of their time working on things like communication styles, relationship dynamics, mindful meditation, and personal development have conversations: “I’m a little worried about money.” “Well, stop it.” “Oh, sure, no problem. Thanks SO much for that help – it’s all better now, haha!” …

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Love

High-Bandwidth Love

I’ve been diving back into the concept of antifragility in a big way. That’s the opposite of “fragile”, according to the work of Nassim Taleb, author of the book of the same name as well as the person who popularized the idea of “the Black Swan” – unforeseeable events that change everything. One of the …

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Love

Unlikely Love

Never tell me the odds. – Han Solo There’s a friend of mine, who I care about a lot, and who I’ve known for years, who used to be sure he would live his life alone. He knew he was a nice guy, he was successful at his job, but he figured that the odds of …

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Practice

The Magic Two Words to Make Relationships Work

I don’t normally use clickbait-type headlines, but I recently came across some gold content buried deep in a great article in Business Insider. I know, you already visit B.I. for all your relationship needs, but in this case the article was long and in-depth and there’s no way most people would have read down to the part that …

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Love

letting love identify itself

While working on a collaborative presentation with a friend and colleague recently we were reflecting on the non-traditional nature of our relationship. You see, we’d dated for over a year, quite enjoyably. We aren’t dating now. But there wasn’t ever really a “breakup.” Nor was there a “fading away.” We actually care for each other …

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love is not all you need

Sorry, John Lennon. You’re Wrong. This blog could have been entirely about love. It’s certainly a rich enough subject, in all the variations – filial, romantic, sexual, parental, environmental, self-directed, the list goes on. I could have follows the model of Buscaglia and Moore and Sark and just written page after page about the richness …

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