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Making the Present the Past You Want to Remember

We didn’t want to make it the way it was. We wanted to make it the way we remembered it. – creators of the Netflix series “Voltron” That quote has stuck with me ever since one of my best friends (and far superior a geek than I will ever be) related it to me. It …

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Your Next Life

I have weird visions of what retirement looks like. In one version, I’m living in Key West. On the beach. I’m a juggler, busking for enough money to pay for meals, sleeping in a tent under the boardwalk, enjoying the sunsets every night. In another version, I’m living in a lighthouse – polishing the mirror …

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One Weasel at a Time

One of the braver soul-warriors I know recently had a Bad Day. I know that, because they contacted me during it to let me know that the Brain Weasels (aka self-doubt, anxiety, repressed fears, unrealized expectations – you know, Brain Weasels) were especially rabid on that day, and so our usual pleasant interactions might be …

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The Life of Shadows

…they are spending their time in pursuit of things that don’t make them happy so much as they serve as a temporary relief from what makes them sad and exhausted.– from a “Pep Talk” via Kameron Hurley’s excellent Patreon Is there anything scarier than being alone with your own thoughts? Little in my life has ever been …

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Finding Your Inner Rescue Animal

It’s not a light read, but ”The Evolving Self: Psychology for the Third Millennium” by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi (say it with me: mih-HAY-lee chick-SENT-me-high) has a lot of pretty profound thoughts. This one might seem a little depressing, but bear with me: A rosy-colored picture of human nature cannot stand up to scrutiny for long. Those …

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Your Non-Stressed Secret Identity

Here’s the thing about stress: it sometimes helps people accomplish amazing things. I’m not just talking about the proverbial mother lifting a truck off their child; I’m talking about the parent who stumbles down the basement stairs to put the sheets in the laundry at 3am after their sick child has finally gone to sleep; …

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Goals Before Bros

It’s an imperfect rhyme, and a tad sexist to boot, but it’s worth taking a moment to remember one of the principles of life: you are the reflection of those closest to you. Which means that you should look at the people you spend your time with, and every once in a while ask some …

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Take Your Time-Deliberately

There is another facet to my most recent time hack experiment. I have theme days, sure, and I have morning rituals still, but those are still working within the schedule – as in, if I give them too much power, I am the slave of arbitrary numbers ticking off electronically with no actual relation to …

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Are You a Slave of Time?

“I realized during meditation this morning that a huge part of my stress lied in a perceived scarcity of time. I am so concerned with ‘not wasting time’ – with ‘living up to my potential’ – that any moment that is not propelling me towards some goal is felt to be a waste, a luxury, …

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How to Cure the “Why Bother?” Syndrome

You know what I’m talking about. It is the Achilles heel of those “chain” habits, where you get a streak of days doing That Thing that you want to make into a habit. “Don’t break the chain,” is what Jerry Seinfeld recommended. But what happens when it breaks anyway? Suddenly you feel like a failure. …

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