the making and re-making of love

While writing the life post for this week I came across this quote from Ursula K. Le Guin, and it stayed in my head. I wasn’t sure why – I just knew that it needed some attention. It’s the anathema to the fairy tale; the bane of “Happily Ever After.” It’s actually kind of a corollary …

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creating consent

Friendly Coercion It’s not consent if you’re afraid to say no. It’s not consent if you’re being manipulated, pressured, or threatened to say yes. – This blog needs to be prefaced with what has colloquially been termed “trigger warning”: I’m going to be touching, at least tangentially, on the idea of non-consentual relations between …

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beware the coercion of malls

Gruen Pains It was back in the mid 90’s when I first noticed it. After a lot of years of relative poverty and the busy-ness of both co- and single-parenting, I decided to take them on one of the favorite activities of my youth: We were all going to the mall. I remember fondly going …

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coercion awareness

Woulda Coulda Shoulda I’m very excited to begin this post, even though it may be completely wrong. As I mentioned in the last Weekend Roundup podcast, I’m going to begin an exploration into the idea of coercion. With relatively few exceptions, I’m going to be talking about the various ways that the phenomenon is a …

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