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Supporting the Front Lines

Tonight I got to take some direct action in the service of protecting the privacy of the people who I serve. We were all at the meet & greet before an open space that’s I’m facilitating tomorrow, a time for people to learn together about how to have stronger, more communicative, and more intimate and …

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Your Semi-Annual Reminder: You Are Enough

I was reading a near-future dystopian thriller yesterday (Cumulus by Eliot Peper) and a quote literally jumped off the screen and lodged in my brain: “Good leaders made themselves indispensable. Great leaders made themselves expendable.” This saying feels like a part of the kind of understated and constructive leadership I’ve been trying to cultivate, and …

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Love, Fear, and A Wrinkle in Time

Last week I wrote about how re-visiting a book I had loved for most of my life revealed some flaws that made it, basically, unlovable. There is also the flip side, though: when something you’ve loved for long time changes in some way, and you discover new reasons to love it. “Please Don’t Ruin It.” …

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Growing Beyond the Story

“…shibumi has to do with great refinement underlying commonplace appearances. It is a statement so correct that it does not have to be bold, so poignant it does not have to be pretty, so true it does not have to be real. Shibumi is understanding, rather than knowledge…In art, where the spirit of shibumi takes …

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Act Like You Belong Here

Just a quick reminder: you got this. Regardless of how many mistakes you’ve made, how many plans have gang aft agley, you got far enough to where you have the resources to read a computer blog. That means access to technology, the free time to explore non-essential content, and a desire to read about personal …

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Love and Loss

The blog has been dark this week for a variety of reasons. I’m not the only one. We got news of a friend who was in the hospital under some horrific circumstances last Saturday. Whenever I thought about writing, nothing seemed, well, worth it. All of my talking about love and life and practice seemed …

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Finding Time for the Things You Love

Notice the title of this post is not “Making Time for the Things You Love”. You can’t make time. Nobody can; it’s the one truly egalitarian resource, where everyone gets the same amount and uses it in the same way. Which means, when I say to myself I don’t have the time to do… and …

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Learning Enough to Break

The very generous folks over at Freedom Mastery have given me a gorgeous “Law of Attraction” planner to try out and review for them. This is not that review. But it is gorgeous. It’s also really hard. Specifically, before you get into the fun of daily schedules and priorities and such, there’s these…exercises. A series …

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Rest Stops on the Relationship Road

Breakups are hard. Even good breakups are difficult — the ones where you both say “hey, this really isn’t working, let’s stop wasting time and energy and it’s agreed upon. Because any relationship that has ventured far enough into intimacy to where a break-up is possible did so with the hope of something. A hope …

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It’s Not Natural

In a long-overdue relaxing dinner with a good friend, the topic came up – as often happens with liberal cis white males – of the various versions of sexual assault and bad sex and inappropriate behavior that have filled the news of late. In talking about one particular article, about the gauche and clumsy actions …

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