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creating consent

Friendly Coercion It’s not consent if you’re afraid to say no. It’s not consent if you’re being manipulated, pressured, or threatened to say yes. – LoveIsRespect.org This blog needs to be prefaced with what has colloquially been termed “trigger warning”: I’m going to be touching, at least tangentially, on the idea of non-consentual relations between …

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shame is not love

“What do I tell my 15 year old daughter who came home with a hickey on her neck?” Recently I’ve been exploring Quora, a site where people can ask questions of the general public to see the answers. The question above was put out there, and I was astonished – and disgusted – by the number …

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The Secret Sexual Lessons of Pancakes

Note: this is a reprint of an article written for SafeWord Magazine. Many thanks to food blogger Emily for the suggestion. Please note this is more explicitly about sex than other Love posts on this blog. However, it’s still pretty PG-rated. Enjoy! Seriously. Want better sex? Learn to make better pancakes. Pancakes are my totem food. …

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