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Your Non-Standard-Issue Life

You know why you’re not happy? It’s because you only think of yourself. Sorry, I don’t mean to be cruel – maybe you are happy, and if you are, then there’s also the very real likelihood that it’s because you can think of someone else. It’s been shown that service is one path that leads …

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You Don’t Have to Be Useful

I don’t normally call out my fellow personal development bloggers, but yesterday I read a post so headdesk-worthy that I knew, in an instant, that I had to write a response. I won’t link to it here, but the gist of it was that we all spend so much time chasing the idea of “happiness” …

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The Oppressive Abundance of Opportunity

Are you familiar with Hicks’ Law? Also known as the Hicks-Hyman law, it basically states that the more choices you face, the longer it will take you to make a decision. In my house, we would call this the Netflix-Hulu effect: with so many different shows to watch (or watch again) we spend more time …

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Trying On Other Lives

I had a weird experience at the airport as I was waiting on my flight from L.A. due to some vagaries of packing and space and the rules of carry-ons, I had no less than three yoga mats and two water bottles among the items I was carrying around the airport. I looked, in short, …

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Your Opinion is a Mirror

There’s a matter of accountability. If you choose to support someone because of one thing, you share some responsibility for the other things. If you choose to support an organization because you have in the past, you bear some responsibility for what they do in the future. And vice versa. That’s Neither Good nor Bad …

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Finding Joy in a World on Fire

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” ― Audre Lorde Among my freelance work, I got an assignment to write an article about how to feel ok about pursuing pleasure in the midst of the world being on fire. I’m not going to quote Billy …

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Playing Into Darkness

One of the several books I’m working my way through right now is “Designing Your Life.” It’s a book (review forthcoming) that takes “design thinking” and applies it to life planning. Preliminary reaction: good stuff. In the beginning, the authors (who teach a course at Stanford’s d-school by the same name) suggest that you do …

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Life Stress

Stress is a funny word. We load it with all kinds of negative connotations, talk about relieving it, coping with it, or even having an idea of a “stress-free” life. Really? Think about that for a moment; would you really want a “stress-free” life? Where you never had the satisfaction of accomplishing a goal, overcoming …

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Sometimes You Lose: A Super Bowl Story

Last weekend, the New England Patriots lost the Superbowl for the first time in five years. Afterwards, there was news about the reactions of Patriots’ quarterback Tom Brady’s family: Brady’s two sons and daughter were not easily consoled. At one point, 5-year-old daughter Vivian blurted out, “The Eagles won the Super Bowl.’’ Replied Bündchen (their …

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Watching for the Signals

I’ve only got 20 minutes to write this post. That’s a signal. Yesterday I went to pick up Natasha from her work, and we got all the way home when she realized she’d left her purse there. That’s a signal. I’ve been having dreams about being at events that weren’t well organized. About missing appointments. …

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