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Playing a Zero Sum Game

If you read this blog much, you’ll find that I’m usually pretty flexible in my opinions. I’m not one of those “wake-at-3am-to-micromanage-life” types, and while I do believe discipline is important, I’m more a believer in compassion. Take some time off, don’t stress if you don’t reach your goal, give yourself credit for trying – …

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Be Careful What You Wish For

A long time ago, in a more innocent time (the late 90’s) I was struggling to figure out what to do with my life. I’d earned a degree that had given me a broad spectrum of creative technological skills, but there was nothing directly transferable into a “career”. Worse, I was an creative (sorry, Mom). …

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Three Unexpected Benefits of Doing Your Morning Ritual (especially when you don’t want to).

Things have been kind of rough chez Gray. It’s not unexpected. I made a deliberate career pivot a few months ago, deciding to forego the traveling facilitator gig to try and find more stable and localized work. I had a set amount of money and time to build the skills, and I spent serious thought …

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Fighting “Narrative Disorder”

Let’s start by making this clear: narrative disorder, narrative addiction, narrative perception and some other things I’m going to mention here are fictional conditions created by the talented writer Malka Older. I’ve been enjoying her “Centenal Cycle” of books, and when the phrase occurred in one of them it spurred me to look further. Turns …

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Love

The Relationship Ferris Wheel: Part 4

This is the first part of a five-part series designed to help you build the intimate relationship you’ve always wanted. Though the process is primarily used in-person by a graphic facilitator, you can use the series and the accompanying handout to do it yourself, following along with the posts. It was developed by Martin Haussmann, …

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The Comfort of Ozymandias

During the filming of the Tarantino film “The Hateful Eight” (not a film I’d recommend, incidentally) one of the props was a genuine 145-year old Martin guitar. There were also several duplicates on the set, and the plan was that they would shoot up to a point where the character played by Kurt Russell was …

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My Visual Thinking EDC

I realized that I had crossed a kind of Rubicon the other day while watching a TV cop show. The assassin was in custody, but she had pulled the classic “steal a piece of pen to pick the lock on the cuffs” trick. The cop found out as soon as he tried to click the …

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Why I Think the Flips Bracelet is Brilliant

If you’re reading this, it’s probably because you know that I’m interested in personal development. How do we develop habits? How do we change them? I’m a freelancer, an entrepreneur, and a fanatical autodidact. Trying to fit everything I want into a day is impossible; there are always So Many Projects as well as So …

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The Relationship Ferris Wheel Part 3

This is the first part of a five-part series designed to help you build the intimate relationship you’ve always wanted. Though the process is primarily used in-person by a graphic facilitator, you can use the series and the accompanying handout to do it yourself, following along with the posts. It was developed by Martin Haussmann, …

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Life

Where Do You Fit When You’re Out of the Way?

A while back I decided to take up the practice of de-centering. That is, trying to be less the spotlight at events and such. I wanted to see if I could be a conduit, rather; a holder-of-space that would support the people who came to events. I worked just as hard, if not harder; I …

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